Life Lessons — Brian Larson

I know what you are thinking. You’re wondering if you will ever find, ‘Her.’ Why is it taking so long? You have moments where you wonder if you will ever have a family. You begin to think, "Maybe I don't even want marriage or a family." And you back this belief up by associating moments of freedom with, “I love being able to do what I want, whenever I want. No responsibilities, just this feeling of freedom.” You begin to get used to this feeling, making it that much more difficult to abandon it for the traditional path of marriage and kids. You can’t imagine not being able to just buy a plane ticket and travel to the other side of the world, just because you want to.

Then all of a sudden you have strong experiences that send conflicting thoughts throughout. Your belief system begins to be challenged by new experiences.

You’re walking down the sidewalk, approaching a family with 2 young toddlers. As they walk by, the two little boys look up at you with this soul piercing smile and say, “Hi.” It’s the most authentic and pure “Hi” you’ve ever heard and felt. It leaves a lasting impression.

You’re playing with your 2-year-old nephew. He’s bouncing around and acting crazy like any 2-year-old, but there’s a moment where he looks at you with a massive smile and stares right through you, for what seems like an eternity. There is this glimmer in his eyes that’s unexplainable, other than that of his soul. And for once, you’ve let someone pierce through and see your soul as well. It leaves a lasting impression.

Christmas comes and you’re surrounded by a couple of young families. You’re in this beautiful home, surrounded by loving families with great food and great wine. The kids are running around with pure innocence, joy, laughter and fun. You join in and you find yourself running around with pure innocence, joy, laughter and fun as well. This experience is the one that crumbles your previous belief system to the ground.

You begin to visualize this becoming your life. You visualize yourself in a beautiful home filled with love, joy, fun and laughter. You visualize a loving, vibrant, joyful, radiant, caring and outgoing wife. A cozy home filled with the craziness of 2-3 young, innocent and amazing children.

You suddenly realize that you, do in fact, desire that life sometime in the future. But you still have your freedom. It’s still all about you. What will you do with it? You have this new found outlook. But what does that mean to you?

It means a few things to you:

1. You now know what you’re working for and towards. You know why you’re grinding right now. You know why you’re building a business that has the ability to run without you. A real business that runs on systems. You know why you’ve made courageous and bold decisions. Decisions that resulted in walking away from a significant amount money that required your presence for revenue. You know why you made the decision to leave that and move towards an opportunity with the potential for more time freedom and financial freedom.

2. You know why you’ve avoided relationships and spent 3+ years working entirely on your own personal development as a man. Why each day you have your head buried in books, courses and content to improve your mental mastery, to improve your business skills, to improve your health, to improve your relationship skills, to improve your spiritual connectedness, to improve your sales skills, to improve your marketing skills, to improve your lifestyle. To improve as a man, each day.

3. You will know why you took the risks that you did. Why you took the leap of faith to quit your job, leave the security and begin your entrepreneurial journey. Why you said ‘No’ to a great opportunity, in order to stay true to your heart and live in alignment to your greatest personal value - freedom. Why you picked up from where you had lived your entire life and moved 1,400 miles away to a city where you knew no one. Why you bought a one-way ticket to fly to the other side of the world, with no plans, but to go with the flow and see where things took you.

4. You’ll know why you’ve made every decision based on the principle of freeing yourself from conformity, from the rat race, from trading your time for money and living a location independent lifestyle.

You’re doing it for your future family.

So when the time comes (and it will come perfectly, on time) you will have created a lifestyle for your family that is far from the traditional way. You’ll have created a life that enables you to never have to miss your kid’s milestones. Never have to miss their school events, their football game, recitals, basketball games etc…. You’ll have the freedom and ability to take them on life-enriching adventures. You’ll have the freedom and ability to take them on trips to the other side of the world that introduces them to the cultural differences in the world, which leaves them well rounded and more whole. You’ll have the ability and freedom to keep spontaneity flowing through your marriage. You’ll have greatly reduced the financial stress that cripples many relationships. You’ll have created the time freedom that gives you, your wife and family the power to live life by your own design.

So remember this as you begin to wonder, “Will it ever happen. Do I really want a family? Why has it not happened yet?”

Grind now. Risk now. Build now. Travel now. Explore now. Adventure now. Make bold decisions now. Step into your full potential as a man now. Develop as a man now. Take courageous action now – so your future family can live a lifestyle that many families dream about. Invest in yourself and develop as a man now, so you can be a husband, father and lover that many only read about in fairytale stories.

This opportunity is before your eyes. Seize it. Your future self and family will be forever thankful.

The Paradigm Shift

The marriage and family paradigm shift is coming and already taking shape. The days of early marriage, creating a family and then struggling for years to get by and make ends meat are starting to become less of the norm - don't get me wrong here, I have MASSIVE respect for the families that are grinding to provide a quality life for their loved ones. But there's a shift happening. The younger generations are simply making a decision to wait. The millennial generation is breaking free from conformity and living their lives in a new way. They are delaying marriage and delaying family in favor of: adventure, freedom, growth, development and financial security. They desire to start a family at a more mature age, with more wisdom, more financial stability, more life experiences and more confidence in their ability to nourish healthy relationships and family dynamics. They are choosing to truly find themselves and build a solid and healthy personal foundation prior to entering the traditional path of marriage and family.

To all of the single men (and women) out there - you are not alone. Don't feel guilty. Don't stress. Don't push the issue. Don't rush. Don't crumble under the pressure of outside influences - those telling you to follow the path of conformity. The reality is that your way is becoming more of the norm. However, you must seize the opportunity. The opportunity to: Build - grow - adventure - develop - grind - risk - NOW - to live free, forever!

Brian Larson

Founder - Kingsman

Creator & Master Trainer - Kingsman Academy