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#32 - How We Hold Ourselves Back in Life

Learn about a recent humbling and learning experience for me, which we can all learn from. 

Summary: 

What holds us back in life? The commonly used culprit is, fear. But often times, it's something entirely different. When we do "this" it prevents us from ever having to even feel fear. How often do we hide behind lies, excuses and justifications? Which ultimately prevents us from experiencing life in new dimensions and progress at the rate we wish. I share a personal story to illustrate this concept of self-sabotage.

I believe: 

I believe it's important that we take the necessary time to listen closely.  Listen closely to the inner dialogue as we quickly come to a conclusion when we are presented with an opportunity, a new experience or asked if we "like" something.  Can we hear the lies, excuses and justifications that immediately come to us?  We must ask, "What's the truth here?"  

Do I really not have the time?  Do I really know if I don't like it?  Do I really know if I'm "Not that kind of person?"  Do I really know if it doesn't work?  Do I really believe that I could never do it?  Do I know that "It's just not for me."  Do I really know that I don't have the money?  Am I really too busy?  

OR  is the following the truth:  

Am I scared of looking bad?  Am I scared of losing?  Am I lacking the confidence necessary to even try?  Am I scared of failing?  Am I scared of being uncomfortable?  Am I scared of during the hard work?  Am I scared of the pressure to perform at the expectations I have of myself or other may anticipate from me?  

Conclusion: 

Our belief systems and identities are often times conditioned and shaped by parenting, schooling systems or through one or two experiences.  The slippery slope is adapting these conditioned beliefs and identities as your own, without ever having consciously assessed whether or not they are serving you and your goals.  

Tip: 

Start saying 'YES' to the new.  To the unfamiliar.  To the unknown.  Stipe away the conditioned beliefs and identities that are preventing you from experiencing life at new levels and dimensions.  Understand that the lack of confidence will be there because it's new, it's unfamiliar.  Make yourself vulnerable.  This is where real growth occurs. This is where an enriched and fulfilling life lies.  

Go out and intentionally get uncomfortable!  Get out and LIVE!  

 

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Brian Larson                                                                                                                                                    Founder - Kingsman                                                                                                                                     Creator & Master Trainer - Kingsman Academy